DIY: FREE Home Management Binder!

Marvel at this thing of beauty. Take it in. Let your inner binder-making nerd revel in its glory.

Now go make your own!

After hearing several mommy-friends sing the praises of a certain popular life planner, I began researching a do-it-yourself version. I’m all for custom covers and cutesy calendars, but I knew my husband wouldn’t be as thrilled as I was about a $50+ planner. My sweet eight-week-old was kind enough to lead me into a bout of mastitis, which resulted in a weekend of bed-rest at my parents’ house. While I nursed ’round the clock and they entertained my toddler, I scavenged the interwebs for free printables to make my own planner. Some call these home management binders…I simply call it, My Precious.

Here are the links to my favorite free printables:

Prayer calendars:

http://247moms.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/02/calendar1.jpg

http://familymatters.net/blog/wp-content/uploads/2014/01/CalendarV.jpg

http://keepingitpersonal.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/02/31-Biblical-Virtues-InfoGraphic_8.5×11.pdf?inf_contact_key=f8053c3d92eff68e12feb9ef4115a5d8ddc3c78bd3ad29df594ad147c61ebcb5

Daily/Weekly/Calendar Stuff:

Activities for kids
http://amindfuljourney.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/summer-schedule.jpg

Exercise
http://www.mygrafico.com/files/MGFREEBIES/exerciselog.pdf

Cleaning
http://www.raininghotcoupons.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/06/clean.pdf

LOTS of calendars & meal planners
http://moneysavingmom.com/wp-content/uploads/dnld/SGTSM_Printable_Packet.pdf?inf_contact_key=0c6ea820f7759b8861fdecff34df611fc7c127180b98c589e5c791a36da0fcad

Dates to remember
http://projectorganizeit.files.wordpress.com/2013/01/datestoremember.pdf

30 Day Challenge
http://projectorganizeit.files.wordpress.com/2013/07/30-day-challenge.pdf

Weekly schedule (love this one!)
https://m.app.box.com/view_shared/l4zh4fy38dz37vktv9eo

LOTS of calendars & planners
http://www.greenchildmagazine.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/01/Personal-Planner-Leaves-by-Green-Child-Mag.pdf

Groceries

Clean 15/Dirty Dozen —
https://waitingpassionately.blog/wp-content/uploads/2014/08/84bed-dirtydozen.jpg

Grocery list —
http://www.addicted2savings4u.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/01/grocery-shopping-list.pdf

Please note: I did not create ANY of these wonderful printables, I just compiled the list.

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My Life as a Castaway

Some days, life as a stay-at-home-mom feels a lot like being marooned on the deserted island that is my house. Aside from two small, wild native-dwellers, my only companion is a much more technologically savvy version of Wilson: Facebook.

As much as I’d like to embrace the cliché that SAHMs sit around all day, eating bonbons while watching soap operas, I cannot. It’s much less glamorous. My toddler ensures that I’m only allowed to bathe two or three times a week, and the baby likes to remind me why bathing is overrated by puking down my shirt and eating my hair. On the rare occasion that I open the door for a UPS or FedEx driver, they’re usually greeted with a wild look in my eyes and scary hair. On good days my teeth are brushed.

It ain’t pretty, folks. My desperation for adult human contact often leads me to scroll through Facebook throughout the day — while nursing the baby (which is how a good chunk of my day is spent), attempting rare solo bathroom trips, during naptimes, and when the natives get restless enough to put me on edge. I’m part of a few mommy groups, and we tend to check in with each other throughout the day to ask questions (Does this look infected? What’s for dinner tonight? Should I call poison control?), and talk one another off of emotional ledges when our kids go rogue. While these interactions can be good and helpful, boundaries are necessary. I had blurred the lines and let my boundaries become so lax that they were almost non-existent. A few weeks ago, Mark jokingly made the comment, “I bet you couldn’t go a week without Facebook.” His words stuck in the back of my mind.

Last Sunday afternoon, while mindlessly scrolling along, I came across this Matt Chandler quote: “Find the things that stir your affections for Christ and saturate your life in them, find the things that rob you of that affection and walk away from them.” Those words immediately hit home. I had become dependent on these daily interactions with friends and acquaintances, and had been neglecting things that should be priorities. I allowed my mind to be filled with other voices all day long. While these voices were friendly and encouraging, they weren’t the one voice that mattered most. When the kids did something funny or frustrating, I wasn’t just telling my husband about it, I was telling fifty other women through my Facebook groups. Some things simply need to be cherished in my heart, not splashed about the internet for the grins and giggles of the masses. After reading that quote, I handed my phone to Mark and instructed him to change my Facebook password.

Cool, calm, and collected on the outside, my guts began to inwardly panic.

 
The first day was a little rough, but by the second day Asher and I were reading chapters out of Winnie the Pooh, and “cooking” together. During nursing sessions with Keane, I figured out how to hold a book and a baby and a boob so I could read to Asher while Keane ate. Productive multitasking, sans iPhone and Facebook. By the third day, my brain began swirling with blog ideas. Blogging has always been a favorite outlet of mine, but as of late my brain has been so fried that it’s been the last thing on my mind. Without the constant daily input from my online mommy friends (and without my input to other mommies), my mind became filled with thoughts and my heart became filled with prayer.
 
My own organic ideas flitted through my brain.
Light bulb moments flashed when I least expected them.
 
 
I felt my creativity return and my mind felt more engaged throughout the day. Rather than staying abreast of the happenings and activities of my fellow mommy friends, I was wholly present with my little family. One day when Asher was particularly difficult, I turned to my husband and my parents for support and prayer. In the past, I would lament online. By no means is Facebook the devil, but I needed to get it under control before it began to control me. Now, I pass my phone over to my husband once a week and ask him to log me in. I check out my friends’ cute baby photos, check in with some of my favorite mommies, and then I log out for the rest of the week. It’s good and necessary to be alone with my thoughts…quite freeing, actually!
 

Blender Brownies: Guilt & Gluten Free!

So easy, so yummy…dare I say healthy(ish)?! I used all organic ingredients, so I can feel even less guilty about letting my toddler indulge.
 

The recipe is gluten-free and soy-free. Below are egg-free and dairy-free options.

Bye-bye eggs: Mix 1 teaspoon of chia seeds with 3 teaspoons of water, let it sit for 15 minutes before adding it to the blender.
Bye-bye dairy: Use dairy-free chocolate chips, or skip them altogether. (Then it would be a nut-butter brownie, still delicious!)

If you’re not a huge fan of bananas, no worries, the taste is very subtle. This brownie is super moist and absolutely yummy — good luck not eating the whole plate!

Keane’s Birth Story

My sweet second son made his way Earthside on May 22, 2014 at 12:41pm. I had been preparing for his birth through two weeks of prodromal labor; I had steady, consistent contractions just about every evening from midnight to 5:00am. It was exhausting.

With Asher, I was on bed rest for half of the pregnancy due to preterm labor. Contractions became such a normal part of pregnancy that it was difficult to tell which ones were real versus prodromal labor. I knew things were different with Asher when my water broke – I was relying on that same indicator with Keane, knowing that it wasn’t a guarantee.

The week prior to Keane’s arrival, I made sure to see my beloved chiropractor, Terry Garcia, as often as possible. She came to my rescue Sunday afternoon (May 18th) after a particularly intense night of contractions. I felt like a new woman after her adjustment, so I made sure to see her every day until I delivered. Our daily visits lifted my spirits; she reminded me that my body was powerful and would do exactly what it needed to do at the perfect time. Those hugs and encouraging words were extremely helpful after being up for several hours each night with contractions that were one minute long, and one minute apart.

After putting Asher to bed Wednesday, May 21st, I stayed up to watch TV, work on laundry, and mentally prepare – I truly felt that May 22nd would be the day. My contractions were back, but not intense enough to call my doula. I pulled out the ol’ breast-pump and tried to encourage them, I drank lots of water, ate some carbs, and made sure to keep my bladder empty. At some point after midnight, Asher woke up and wanted Mommy snuggles, so I laid down with him. I snuck out of bed around 1:30am to go potty, and while walking thought the living room to get to the other side of the house, my water broke. Luckily, I was standing on the tile floor. Luckily, Mark happened to also be walking though the living room a minute or two later, and came to my rescue with a towel.

I waited forty-five minutes to text my doula, Maria Pokluda. Sleep is very important, and I hated to wake her up in the middle of the night…even though she fully expects it and doesn’t mind at all. I knew things weren’t intense enough to head to the hospital, so we decided to wait it out for a while. She was able to get a little more rest, but I was too excited. I bounced on the birth ball for a bit, then walked around the block several times at 3:30am. It was a beautiful, cool night and the birds were chirping just for me. I used that time to pray, and my excitement grew.

Sometime after 4:00am, I woke Mark up and told him we should probably take Asher to Nana and Papa’s house. We loaded up the car and dropped him off sometime before 5:00am, then made our way to Harris in Fort Worth. My original goal was to wait as long as possible to head to the hospital, but that put us in danger of hitting morning rush-hour traffic. Car rides in active labor are no fun.

By 5:45am, we were checked in and I was dilated to a “loose four” per the nurse. She also informed me that my fore-bag had broken, but the rest of the bag of waters was still intact. I gave my permission to pop that sucker. By 6:45am, the midwife on call had been by to check my progress and break the bag, which proved to be unnecessary. The floodgates opened up when she checked me, and my contractions soon became more intense. My mother arrived just before 7:00am, and my doula wasn’t far behind her. Birth Boot Camp instructor, Tami Zubke, arrived around 9:30am to take photos and observe. (Her photographs helped me piece this birth story together after two weeks of minimal sleep!)

At 9:40am, the mood was light. Mark was napping on the couch, Maria and I were reminiscing about Asher’s birth, and Mom was getting excited. I walked the halls with Maria, and she helped me through the contractions for the next hour. The nurse began filling the tub around 10:45am. A few minutes shy of 11:00am, I was in the tub, progressing nicely. Maria massaged my sacrum. I ate a popsicle. Intense, but not unbearable.

By 11:30am, I was clinging to the side of the tub through each contraction and “vocalizing.” That’s a nice way of saying I was getting loud. So loud, in fact, that Mark snapped at two women in the hallway when they made a comment about my epidural not being strong enough. Near noon, Mom made the comment that she wouldn’t be surprised if Keane was born in the next thirty minutes. Knowing that my last labor went quickly, Maria agreed that anything was possible. I silently prayed that they were right. Soon, I started getting pushy…someone left the room to hunt down the nurse and midwife.

My midwife gave me the ok to start pushing at 12:15pm. Time seemed to stand still in the throes of these powerful contractions. I pushed through each one, then rested. I wasn’t myself at this point…I was in the zone and very primal. Thirty minutes of push, rest, push, rest. I felt his head crowning. Everyone gasped when they saw his headful of dark hair. Push, rest, push, rest — a life-giving cadence. With one last big push, I roared my baby into the world.

I lifted Keane out of the water and onto my chest, so proud of myself and so in love with my new son.

Living a Lie

“The safest place to be is in God’s will.”
I’ve heard this statement for years – first from well-meaning youth group teachers, and recently floating around Facebook and Pinterest. It always gets a rise out of me. While it’s a nice sentiment, I wholeheartedly disagree. It is a lie.
I see how this can be confusing with so many multi-millionaire pastors who have their own jets and wear designer clothes. (This infuriates me to no end.)
When we are truly in God’s will, we will be asked to give until we have nothing left. To love until it hurts. To completely empty ourselves. To give up our safety and security. 
American Christianity sells the gospel of safety and prosperity. It professes that if you love God enough, pay your tithes, go to church on Sundays, and send your kids to church camp every summer, that you’ll be happy, healthy, and prosperous. Middle-class values have somehow become central to the Gospel of Christ, yet they have no place there. 
Being in God’s will is not safe. It should wreck our comfortable little world. 
Jim Elliot was in God’s will. He lost his life. 
Safe to say that Jesus was smack dab in the middle of God’s will; he was hated and executed, betrayed by his closest friends. To be a Christian is to be like Christ. He did not live a comfortable life.
We feel loved and protected — happiest — when we’re safe and warm in our houses with our families. We reap the benefits of the American Dream and view it as God’s ultimate blessing. 
I’m not saying that if you have a wonderful life, full of safety and happiness, you’re not in God’s will. That’s not my intent. Having nice things and a savings account doesn’t make us unholy, but we must be careful not to be duped into believing that those are guaranteed by God. 
What about Christians in heavily persecuted parts of the world? When practicing their faith, they are in harms way. They’ve chosen to give up safety and security for the sake of being in God’s will. 
Living in the reckless raging fury of God’s love is not a safe bet. Do not be deceived by comfort and the freedoms we so often take for granted. 

A New Reality

I had the most incredible dream last night. These days, I’m doing good to remember any dreams with multiple night-waking divided between bathroom trips and flailing toddler arms. This dream is a true gift that I cannot keep to myself. I wholeheartedly believe we can all learn from this alternate reality…a fresh perspective, indeed.

In this dream, Trayvon Martin was my brother. I didn’t spend time figuring out the hows and whys of the circumstances, nor did I question the obvious outward differences. My parents also accepted Trayvon as their son – my normal real-world family was intact, except with this new sibling.

In this dream, Trayvon Martin was the one who lived after the infamous altercation.

In this dream, he was hated by the media, seen as a cold-blooded killer, and was in prison.

No part of my dream dealt with trials, lawyers, judges, or juries; it only dealt with my brother in prison. My heart was truly broken for Trayvon, and I made every attempt to visit him as often as I could. My husband, who does not now and will not ever have a tattoo of his own personal preference, got a tattoo of Trayvon on the top of his right foot to symbolically show that he would walk every step with my brother, and that he would never be alone. We all took turns visiting him, lamenting his treatment by others, hugging him, crying with him, and just being with him.

We championed his cause as if it was our own, because we made it our own. I could do nothing to change his present circumstance – my sole purpose was to love him. I prayed for him, with him, wrote him letters, showed up for every visitation; my heart was truly grieved for him.

I woke up this morning to a very different reality, yet my heart was still grieved. My beautiful son was smiling next to me, gave me a big kiss, and requested his breakfast – as he does every morning. Except this morning was different. My heart hurt for this brother.

I woke up with Hebrews 13:2 emblazoned on my heart and soul: “Don’t forget to show hospitality to strangers, for some who have done this have entertained angels without realizing it! Remember those in prison, as if you were there yourself. Remember also those being mistreated, as if you felt their pain in your own bodies.

The truth is, we are all brothers and sisters. What would our world look like if we truly lived out the compassion of Christ? What if we did as we were instructed and ALWAYS showed hospitality to strangers? What if our hearts were truly grieved for those imprisoned by so many different things – not just impenetrable walls, but by addiction, sin, anger, and loneliness? What if we truly hurt for those who are hurting? What a different reality we would all experience.

Gluten-Free Zucchini Brownies

Prepare to have your mind and taste-buds blown!
What you need:
1 cup of nut butter. (I used a combo of pecan butter, chocolate hazelnut spread, peanut butter, and white chocolate spread because I didn’t want an overwhelming nutty flavor.)
1 1/2 cup of grated or chopped zucchini. (I used yellow squash and zucchini, finely grated.)
1 cup steel-cut oats (Granola blends would probably be good, too!)
1 egg (I can’t eat eggs, so I substituted chia seeds — 1 tbsp chia seeds & 3 tbsps water.)
1 tsp of vanilla
1 tsp of baking soda
1 tsp of cinnamon
1 cup of dark chocolate chips. 
*optional ingredient = 1/4 cup of raw honey if your nut butter isn’t very sweet. I did NOT use honey in mine & they’re perfect. 
What you do:
Preheat oven to 350 degrees.
Combine all the ingredients into a large bowl and mix everything together.
Pour into a greased 9×9 baking pan.
Bake for 35-45 minutes, or until a toothpick comes out clean.

A Beautiful Year in Review

We survived the first year…it’s been absolutely amazing! Thinking back to my early twenties (when I had the world figured out), I remember “knowing” how I would raise my future children. I’m happy to say that everything I said I would NEVER do, I have done. Ten years ago, this would have been my birth plan: Epidural. ASAP. And as for care and feeding: Formula. My boobs are mine.

I am proud of my drug-free natural birth. I am proud that I trusted God’s design for my body. I am proud that my son is still breastfeeding at one year. It was the most difficult obstacle I’ve ever encountered – I had never before heard of tongue or lip ties – and once Asher’s sweet little mouth was fixed, he nursed like a champ! I am proud that I trusted my judgment when he had coughs and colds; he has never needed antibiotics. No diaper rashes, no ear infections – is that even possible?! I’ve been able to rely on my crunchy mom friends who have wonderful holistic living experience, and my son was always better within a week of an illness. (Breastmilk is the ultimate medicine!) Cloth diapers have saved us THOUSANDS, and a generous gift of from some good friends meant I didn’t have to buy ANY babywipes until he was two weeks shy of one year.

Without my husband and amazing family, I would not be the mother I am today. Mark has supported me without question, and has even surprised me with his desire to co-sleep. His love for Asher blows me away on a daily basis! I’ve been in love with him for years, but watching him love our son is an indescribable feeling. My parents and in-laws have been there to watch Asher on drill weekends and date-nights, he sure does love his grandparents! Our siblings have also been amazing support systems who love our son as they do their own children.

The word “blessed” doesn’t come close to describing my life. I am honored to be a mother. I am honored to be a wife. I am honored to be a daughter and sister. The most flattering compliment I’ve ever received came from a woman at church a few month’s ago, “You’re Asher’s mom, aren’t you?!”

Yes. I am Asher’s mother. I am Mark’s wife. And it is incredible!

 
 
 

Bullets, Bombs, & Bombshells

“Pentagon lifts ban on women in combat…women now eligible for U.S. combat duty…” so says CNN’s headlines. I imagine there were hundreds of medics and security forces of the female persuasion who laughed at that news, considering they’ve been in combat for years at this point. The first two women to earn Silver Stars since WWII were a cop and a medic.

Modern warfare is an equal opportunity slaughterhouse, and to say that women shouldn’t be eligible for the frontlines is to say that one life is more important than another. Women in the military can take a bullet and shoot a bullet the same as a man.

Please don’t read that last line as: Women are completely, in every way, physically equal to men. I do not agree that is the case. Science proves otherwise, so there’s no need to chase that rabbit.

I imagine this recent legislation ranks right up there with “allowing” homosexuals to serve in the military. My response to lifting DADT was barely more than an eyebrow raise…whooptydooo. This is my eleventh year of service, and from day one I’ve served alongside many upstanding gays and lesbians. They’ve always been there, and it’s never been a problem. They are people, just like me, and I’ve never made any distinctions.

As long as the military keeps standards high and doesn’t soften requirements for the sake of increasing female numbers in combat positions, then this should be little more than a blip on the radar of military history. Yes, it is significant, and I’m sure feminists all over the country are burning an extra bra in celebration, but I don’t think fainting couches and extra smelling salts will be needed to accommodate any delicate sensibilities.

Wake-up Smiles and Night-night Kisses

Two years ago today, Mark and I had the most gorgeous wedding in the history of weddings (of course I’m biased). One year ago today, I was five months pregnant – full of excitement and anticipation (and a squishy baby). Today, right now, that sweet little man is asleep in my arms…and I’m overwhelmed with God’s gracious blessings.

Mark’s hard work and brilliant financial planning have allowed me to stay home with Asher. While I absolutely loved teaching and miss the camaraderie of my students, I wouldn’t change a thing. This is the life I’ve always wanted. As a girl, I wanted to be a mommy – just like my mom and Granny.

Aside from my own home, I never felt more loved than when I was at my granny’s house. She had a way of making me feel like the most special little girl in the world, and I long to keep that tradition of love and nurturing alive for my son. As much as I aspire to be like my mother and grandmother, I definitely fall short in the areas of cooking and housekeeping.

The way I see it, I have the rest of my life to keep a clean house. Granted, we don’t live in filth, but there are dishes in the sink, toys in the floor, sticky substances on the counter, and a load of towels in the dryer as I type. This morning Asher and I took a two hour nap together. Well, he slept while I snuggled him. Even though there were plenty of things to keep me busy, I wanted him to fall asleep and wake up next to me (and nurse to his heart’s content throughout his nap). But most of all, I wanted to catch his wake-up smile. This is one of my greatest joys.

When he wakes up in the morning and from his daily naps, he opens his eyes, blinks for a bit, and as soon as he sees me, his whole face lights up! This happens three times a day (assuming he wakes up next to me and not in his crib…crib wakes-ups involve crying until I rescue him), and my goal is to catch all of those special, sleepy smiles.

Every time I see his smile, I don’t feel so guilty about laundry or dishes. I know one day he’ll be “too cool” to hug and kiss me in front of his friends. One day, he will sleep all night in his bed and wake up on his own. One day, he’ll rush out of the house to be with his friends…one day, a girlfriend. Right now, I’m the most important woman in his life, and I don’t want to miss anything. Fifteen years down the road, I’ll relish every memory of every wake-up smile; I’ll get teary-eyed at the thought of nursing him to sleep, and I’ll miss my sweet baby. So for now, I’ll tend to the laundry later.